Trust in Relationships: Ellie’s Story

31 October 2014 , Posted by Sue Crock

Relationships are complex and even more so when one or both of you are working FIFO and away from home. Open communication is important and so is trust. It can make or break a relationship.
Ellie and Sam had been together for five years. They’d made the decision that Sam would work FIFO for the time being, so they could buy their house and pay it off before they had kids. Ellie loved their new home and spent a lot of her time decorating it and making it theirs.

 

 

Ellie worked in retail and loved her job. She missed Sam when he was onsite, but he was on a good roster and the time they had when he was home was always special.

 

 

She’d noticed Sam calling her out of the blue, when she was at work or on the weekends when he was away. He would often quiz her about what she was doing. She thought he must be feeling low and missing her.

 

 

Then, when he was home one day, he started asking her who she sees and where she goes when he’s not there. She felt hurt and told him she loved him and he had nothing to worry about. She told Sam they had to trust each other while they were apart. She said she didn’t think he was playing up onsite so why should he think she is.

 

 

After that, they started to fight more about things. She was worried that Sam was wrecking their relationship. She couldn’t understand what he was on about. Why was he so distrustful?
What can Ellie do about Sam’s lack of trust?

 

 

Do you think that trust is an issue in your relations? Why not try taking this quiz online. It’s something you can both do in your own time, and will give you a general but independent assessment of how trusting your relationship is.

 

Take the time to learn more about relationships.

 

Or, talk to someone about your worry:

 

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